The Calling

We go through life judging others by what we've learned, what we've interpreted through our short life spans on this Earth. Every situation is shaded by the colour of your own life and it can be incredibly hard to be able to look at things from any other perspective. Not only hard, but frustrating too. You will bend peoples noses out of joint, make rash decisions and hasty judgments and then wonder why you don't seem to be getting very far.

Lifting the veil is one of the hardest things that any one of us can do for ourselves. What may seem right to you, can be seen as wrong by someone else and vice versa. How, then, can we get past this problem and be more accepting of our situations? By taking a step back. Sounds so easy, yet the reality is ricockulously hard to achieve.

But ultimately worthwhile.

Take a step back and don't overanalyse. One of my biggest problems in the past is that I overanalyse situations and find myself worrying about things I have either no right to worry about or there is no POINT worrying about because I can do nothing to change the situation.

And that is probably the toughest thing for people to get their head round. But flippancy is not the alternative. People worry because they care. They either care about someone else or they care about how things will affect them personally. And that can't be wrong, unless all you worry about is yourself. That is where worrying becomes selfishness and it can be hard to identify that.

Compromise is a word often used and just as often neglected. Why should I change who I am? I like how I am, why should I? Compromise is not the power of change, its the understanding and acceptance of something that you are not used to accepting. Look, none of us are perfect. None of us run our lives like saints and we all make mistakes. It's part of what's called the human condition. It's not something to be ashamed of but it's something we should be aware of. We like things as they are. Some people thrive on change, others prefer things to remain the same and there is NOTHING wrong with that! Except when a situation arises that means you have to look at what you do, or who you are and then decide if you want to let that situation affect your life and to what amount, on what level?

And that is where we should consider compromise. You won't want to, it might not feel right to, but sometimes we HAVE to unless we want to squander our opportunities. I've recently been blessed with an opportunity and I recognise that my life will change as a result, come what may. I have to accept that and part of accepting that is being able to compromise, something I'm definitely not used to! Any one of the ladies I've dated over the past few years will tell you that much!

But lacking the will to compromise is borne out of fear. Fear of the unknown, fear of accepting a situation that potentially could make big changes to how you live your life. And insecurities throw up the walls to try and prevent that and it is so easy to hide behind them, lobbing the occasional grenade over into "enemy" territory to see if you will deter your opponents.

But I don't want to sit behind the walls. I want to scale them all and see what the future holds. It's not something that can happen overnight but if you can recognise them, then you can climb them. The comfort zone that we live in can sometimes blind us and prevent us from taking hold of life with a firm grip and taking a risk on something or someone.

So take heart, give it a go. Take that risk and don't regret it.